Why is it?

I wrote this at the end of May and never published it.  This is the reason I needed a sabbatical.
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Why is it,when an infertile couple chooses to try fertility treatments, we're accused of overpopulating the world and yet people that do not have fertility issues are NEVER told they're overpopulating the world?

Why is it, that people who have NEVER had problems conceiving feel that they have the right to tell an infertile couple to "just go and adopt"?

Why is it, when someone decides to adopt internationally, we're accused of child trafficking and buying a baby?

Why is it, when someone decides to adopt internationally, we're told by people (who have never tried) to adopt domestically?

Why is it, when someone decides to adopt outside of their ethnicity, we're accused of cultural genocide?

Why is it, when someone decides to try a private domestic adoption, they're told to go through the foster care system instead?

Why is it, that people feel they have the right to stick their noses in everybody else's business?

I'm confused

A couple of posts ago I commented on how the review room information hasn't been updated since December. We have a December 2006 LID so we've been anxious to see if we've been cleared or not yet.

Now I'm hearing people who have LID's after us are being told by their agencies they've cleared the review room but our agency is only telling us what the CC@@ website is telling them, which is files have been reviewed up to October 2006.

So what's going on? Do certain agencies have insiders working for them that are able to give them more information than others? Is our agency one of those that doesn't want to rock the boat with the CC@@ and won't approach them and ask questions? Why isn't our agency doing more to give us the information we've requested and not just read what's on the website? I'm just getting a little frustrated with the conflicting information that's floating around right now.

Just had to get that out. Now I feel better.

Livid!

I was going through my bloglines this evening and read a post from Tracey and instantly felt her outrage. Turns out the (our publicly funded television and radio station) has a show called The Debaters. Here's what they have to say about the upcoming episode:

We've Rolled Back the Price!

Celebrities like Angelina Jolie and Madonna are scooping up kids from Africa and Asia like they were designer handbags. This week, homegrown comedy celebs, Sabrina Jalees and Debra DiGiovanni debate celebrity adoption of third world kids and whether this popular pastime is good for the kid or anybody else.

I find this absolutely disgusting and inappropriate. I'm getting really tired of people who have no understanding of international adoption or the reasons why people adopt internationally making a big joke out of it. Our family is NOT and will NOT be a joke. We have not decided to adopt internationally because it's trendy or popular or because the "cool kids" are doing it. We decided to adopt internationally because that's how we feel this is the right path for us. I sent the following email to show my discontent:

As a prospective adoptive parent I find this episode particularly offensive and disgusting. Comparing children to designer handbags is one of the rudest, most condescending things I've ever heard. To discuss international adoption in this manner is highly inappropriate.

My husband and I have chosen, after much thought and consideration to, create our family through international adoption. It is not a decision that we came to easily, we had a lot of discussions and did a lot of soul searching to make sure this is the path we wanted to take. We definitely did NOT decide to adopt internationally because it's trendy or because our child would be a cute accessory. I find it highly offensive that someone would even suggest this.

Instead of having two comedians who probably know nothing of the process or the reasons why people adopt, why not bring in people who have adopted, are in the process of adopting or social workers and representatives of agencies to discuss the situation in a mature and thoughtful manner.

If you have a moment and feel up to it, please send them an email as well. I even encourage American PAP's to email them as well. I know last year with the stupid show put on by CNN many Canadians complained, the more voices we have, the better. I can't believe they're using tax dollars to produce this garbage.