Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Why is it?

I wrote this at the end of May and never published it.  This is the reason I needed a sabbatical.
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Why is it,when an infertile couple chooses to try fertility treatments, we're accused of overpopulating the world and yet people that do not have fertility issues are NEVER told they're overpopulating the world?

Why is it, that people who have NEVER had problems conceiving feel that they have the right to tell an infertile couple to "just go and adopt"?

Why is it, when someone decides to adopt internationally, we're accused of child trafficking and buying a baby?

Why is it, when someone decides to adopt internationally, we're told by people (who have never tried) to adopt domestically?

Why is it, when someone decides to adopt outside of their ethnicity, we're accused of cultural genocide?

Why is it, when someone decides to try a private domestic adoption, they're told to go through the foster care system instead?

Why is it, that people feel they have the right to stick their noses in everybody else's business?

7 comments:

Michele said...

I am so sorry. It sounds like you've been overloaded with insensitive and ignorant people lately. People are stupid and rude. And those that have never walked in your shoes will never understand. Big hugs my friend.

Rhonda said...

I'm so sorry that you've had to deal with more than your fair share of insensitive people.

Sending big hugs.

Sugar Cookies And Hope said...

If someone gives you an answer, be sure to pass it along to me.
Love you big.

Anonymous said...

I suggest stabbing said person with a pencil.

Rolling your eyes does not excuse the comments enough, does it?

I have a younger friend (early 30s) just starting her infertility journey. I have warned her about the shit comments that come with the turf.

Juliette said...

Yes why indeed?
Sorry people suck so much.

4D said...

UGH...people need to think before they speak.

Keep smilin!

kitchu said...

because. people can really suck.

HUGE hug to you. i sure have missed you.